I honestly believe that the place I am in right now is the exact spot I need to be in for whatever the reason. This didn’t come overnight. This was something I grew into like a new pair of jeans that are tight and don’t quite flex when you bend at the knees. After the first wash, they fit just slightly better. And over many washes they fit like a second skin with the faded fabric bearing the wear marks of knees from bending and sitting.